Question by DRSOGR: What is the best way to say goodbye to our daycare provider?
My wife is currently pregnant. We had found out her “planned” due date about 3 weeks ago, at which time we told our daycare provider. This was to give her a heads up. Every since this time, she has been giving us guilt trips about planning to take our son out of daycare. (Such as, your son won’t learn as much at home, he will lack social skills if you take him out, I won’t be able to find anyone to replace him.) Well today we found out one of our family freinds wants to watch him for the last two weeks before the planned birth of our 2nd child. Should we give our daycare provider a week and a few days notice. Or should we just take him out on the last day he is paid for? We have had a smooth relationship with this provider, until the recent guilt trips. We think that she treats our son well, and our son enjoys the daycare. We just don’t feel that we should have to endure guilt trips everytime we pick him up. We have no signed contract with this daycare provider.
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Answer by reneaumommy
I would give her the notice out of respect but do mention that you are sure he will miss his time with her but that this is what is best for your family. SHe has probably grown attached to your son however that does not give her the right to pressure you.
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You should give her at least a week’s notice. It is a business arrangement, after all, and you would certainly have expected notice from her if she, for whatever reason, could no longer provide care for your child. To put in in perspective, you are providing part of her livelihood. Guilt trips or not, like it or not, contract or not, she counts on your ‘tuition’ payment to take care of her own family, or at least herself, and it seems to me like common human decency to let her know sooner than later.
Technically, you can pull your son anytime you want. She’s the one that put herself in that position by not having a contract. It’s not your fault she doesn’t have good business practices. Maybe you just sit down and tell her that you’d like to honor your previous verbal termination date, but you can’t subject your son to negative ideas (such as him not learning, not having social skills, etc) and if she can’t stop, his last day is today. You have no obligation to her legally without a contract. I am part of a 25 year home daycare so usually I take the providers side. But, in this case…the woman is stupid for not having a contract and is inappropriate for making these comments. She should be concentrating on teaching your son about being a big brother and things like that. My mother (a 25 year provider) makes all pregnant moms baby blankets…doesn’t tell them they’re making a wrong decision if they’re leaving.
If possible, I would let the family friends watch him the 2 weeks AFTER the baby is born to let everyone get settled. Just an idea
The daycares in my area all need 1 months notice so I think you should give as much notice as possible. She could depend on that money… you could pay her for the last week and take him out. Getting the guilt trip isn’t right though. She shouldn’t do that… try to ignore it.
If you think that they will act worse for ending the care earlier then don not give notice just let them know with a phone call or mail it. But if they will still treat your child well then give them notice now saying that you are ending 2 weeks earlier then planned.